I'm up during the night a lot. It's when I do some of my best writing.
Lately I have been exploring new relationships in my writing; mainly, lesbian and bi-sexual characters. I have never written about sexual things before. In fact, I have been quite conservative in my stories until the last couple of years. But this year I seem to have awakened a creative area I never knew I had, and I find it most exciting. Even exhilirating.
Don't get me wrong. I don't want to write pornography, and I don't think I can write erotica. But loving relationships. That I think I can do. But love scenes are part of loving relationships - or can be. I've been struggling with those a bit. To be honest: I haven't been all that successful.
If anyone has any thoughts, I am more than willing to hear them. How does one write an arousing love scene without becoming pornographic? I don't want to abandon my new world of creativity. I want my women to love each other. But I want them to be real about it.
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This is something I struggle with too.
I mostly don't get on with very explicit sex scenes. I've nothing against them, it's just that it's so easy for there to be a jarring detail and I cringe or laugh. And yet I want ways to show people loving each other.
I think for me the most exciting part of a love scene is the anticipation: the breathlessness, the desire, the awkwardness, the wonder. Or whatever else the characters are feeling.
I hope you get some answers from people who know more about it!
I like your answer. Jarring detail has the same effect on me. It takes out of the story and suddenly I'm back in reality - where I don't want to be while I'm reading.
At the same time, some of my fade out scenes seem equally silly. They just serve to tell the reader I was too afraid to write what really happened.
They just serve to tell the reader I was too afraid to write what really happened.
I've done that too!
I struggle with the Inner Editor's constant refrain of "You can't say that! People will know you said that and will DISAPPROVE!" LOL. But that said, I can write erotica just fine. I'm working on one for NaNo this year, too.
Yes. Disapproval is certainly a factor. But do you deal with explicit detail, or do you handle it (no pun intended) differently?
I had an assignment once to write a love scene using no body parts. Then the second part of the assignment was to add in the body parts. I actually liked the first part better. Maybe try that and see how it feels.
When they made The L Word, they mostly used actresses who had never been with a woman and had to be taught how to do a love scene. They made fun of themselves in the more recent episodes when they were shooting the lesbian movie and had to teach the actresses how to do love scenes.
I didn't know you wrote erotica, writtenwyrdd. I'd love to read it, to see how it's done.
Sarah: What an interesting assignment. I will try that.
Having to be taught how to do a love scene. That must have been embarrassing for them. Of course, I find myself in the same situation with my writing. I have to be taught how to write it.
Thanks for the help.
Writtenwyrdd: I'm with fairyhedgehog. Do you have a place where any of the erotica you've written can be read?
Most of what I've been able to find so far is just so much trash. They're not love scenes at all. They mostly seem to be written by people who have just learned how to use dirty words.
I want something gentle, romantic, and arousing. To me, that's real lovemaking. The other is kind of like rape.
WITN, I write explicit sex scenes. Erotica is basically pr0n but with a plot (supposedly).
Your "(supposedly)" makes me think erotica doesn't need a plot. Most of the examples of love scenes I've found online of late would fall into that category.
I guess I'm too old-fashioned. I still want romance and love. And a plot.
Are you embarrassed when you write your scenes? Or are you past that now?
I still blush when I realize some of the things I can come up with to write. That usually makes me quit writing, or just "fade out".
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